Thursday, December 10, 2015

Trying mediation to stem family feuds

Editor's note:  This Shark believes from personal experience that mediation in the Probate Court of Cook County is the road to hell.  Lucius Verenus, Schoolmaster, ProbateSharks.com

 

GUARDIANSHIP 

Trying mediation to stem family feuds



Former 12th Judicial Circuit Chief Judge Lee Haworth, is acting as administrator for the circuit for a pilot program aimed at keeping families out of probate court when an elder is incapacitated.
HERALD-TRIBUNE ARCHIVE / 2015 / DAN WAGNER


Published: Saturday, December 5, 2015 at 5:40 p.m.
Last Modified: Saturday, December 5, 2015 at 10:11 p.m.
When bad blood runs in the family of an elder who develops dementia or frailty, the situation can slither downhill fast.

Entrenched rivalries and resentments only complicate the thorny question of how best to care for a vulnerable older parent or spouse. One brother may suspect another of financial exploitation, or an adult stepdaughter may accuse her mother’s second husband of neglect or even abuse.
If the dispute reaches a point where attorneys are consulted or authorities called, the likely result is an adult guardianship process that strips the elder of any legal right to make decisions, and places a relative or professional in full charge of his or her finances, personal life and health care. The more complicated and deep-seated the family feud, the more likely it is that a probate judge will appoint an outsider to act as guardian.
“I’ve served in every division,” says former 12th Judicial Circuit Chief Judge Lee Haworth, who retired in August after 26 years. “But the anger that burns in probate cases burns incandescent.”
Divorce court can get ugly, too, he adds, “but there you only usually have two parties. Here, you can have dozens. You can imagine all the slights that a sibling experienced — all those things bubble to the surface when the adult parent becomes incapacitated. All those hostilities, all those concerns about where the estate’s going to go, get very intense.”

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